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A SATIRICAL blog about interracial dating from @WetAsTheCee aka ceewhathappenedwas

 Shit is funny and has folks HEATED. (Self not included. Date who you want.) *

See what I mean? http://twitter.com/WetAsTheCee/statuses/228275421265932291

*I saw a tweet about 'dating and RT'd a Hov quote behind it. This is how I found about this post.. Trying to figure out what the uproar was all about..smh. Almost wished I hadn't but eh.... I know she was playing. Clearly other niggas don't nor are they playing in regards to the insults they are hurling. Cats are in their feelings. Double talking. Calling her names but saying they don't care.. Pick a side niggas...smh Being disrespectful. These are the niggers you other folks look up to though...-_- Ah...I didn't read the 'original' blog that sparked this one. I don't frequent that place so naw....I missed it..lol Here it is. Folks hero's name is attached to it. (Word is he didn't 'write it' but whatever...It is his opinion. He can keep it. I don't give a good fuck..)


10 Reasons Why I’m Going to Start Dating White Men

 
I'm get one too, Sanaa!!!
I’ma get me one, too.
So, while on the Twitters today (you can find me at @WetAsTheCee), there was an article floating around written by one of “Black Twitter’s Elite Idiots”. Some guy name Ice wrote an article entitled “10 Reasons Black Guys Prefer White Girls”. I read. I shook my head. I realized how idiotic it all sounded. Then, I started thinking “This is just HIS opinion, this isn’t ALL black males, right????”
A glimpse of my timeline showed me, sadly, there are other guys out here who feel this way. And I by no means am knocking ANYONE’S dating preference. But I’m saddened by the amount of sheepish black men who subscribe to this same thought process. So instead of me filling up your timeline with my thought, I took it to the blog. Here we go!
10 Reasons I’m going to start dating White men:
10. White guys LOVE my hair. Whether it’s weaved, pressed or naturally twisted, I’ve ALWAYS received compliments from the men of Caucasia. They touch it (with permission), play in it, even had one help me twist it. Also, they understand that while we don’t often get our hair wet, we don’t smell like wet dog when we do.
9. White men listen. I don’t have to tell Tom more than once what I need him to do. I’m STILL asking Dayquan to get his brush and du rag out my car,
8. White guys are family friendly. Your Grandmother isn’t worried that Trent is going to steal her Sterling Silver gravy boat at Thanksgiving. He’s also bringing over a bottle of wine for Auntie Tamika to add to the punch.
7. White men aren’t bothered by my lack of restrictions in the bedroom. I believe that sex should be more than a nut. It is a bonding experience designed for pleasure and growth. But suggesting any position in the bedroom to a Black man leads to accusations of unfaithfulness and them questioning whether they have entered a relationship with a hoe. White guy? “You said you want a finger in your ass, honey?? Left hand or right?”
6. White men aren’t trying to be music A&R on Twitter. Some of my Black brothers spend COUNTLESS hours on Twitter, dissecting mixtapes, albums, blogging, but have never said anything like “hard day in the office” or “my manager gets on my nerves”. You’re not all producers or tastemakers. Most white men have goals, and will let you know of those goals within the first 30 minutes of your conversation. Check out white twitter during 9-5…CRICKETS, People!!!!
5. White men have no problem giving their women gifts. I’ve known this white dude for 4 days, and managed to get a bouquet of exotic flowers, an edible arrangement and a $200 date. A Black guy will buy you lingerie for Christmas and get mad when you’re not excited. I’m not saying that material things are important, but it’s MANY Black men out here that won’t loan their “Woman” $20 til her next payday because it’s be deemed as “tricking”.
4. White men act like they have some good gotdamn sense. I do not constantly have to yell at Rob for coming home late because Rob respects me and is home in bed by 1. I don’t have to nag Rob because he handles his business without me reminding him of his responsibilities. I don’t go through Rob’s phone or email because he’s never given me any reason to suspect something fishy may be going on. I also don’t have to worry about Rob calling me 5453 times in a row because I didn’t respond to his text quickly enough. Rob doesn’t accuse me of sleeping with every male that I say “Hi” to. Rob doesn’t ride past my house to make sure no other cars are there, either.
3. White men love to take care of their women. You need your car washed, oil changed? Those gutters clean enough? How’s that new chandelier Joe installed?
2. White men in the bedroom. Ever got some head from a suburban boy with full lips and an appetite for days??? None of that cute shit, them boys get DOWN! From the roota to the toota!! And he’s not done until you are.
And Finally…the TOP REASON…
1. White men just seem to have it together. I mean, look at Robin Thicke, Chris Noth, Robert DeNiro, Justin Chamber, Roger Ebert and David Bowie. Hell, Even Brad Pitt!!!!!! What do all these powerful, rich, famous, melanin challenged men ALL have in common??? They’ve all either dated or are MARRIED to BLACK WOMEN.
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Hubby watching porn online finds film starring his wife - Emirates 24/7

 This would be the death of most of you though...I can tell just by how you tweet. Your little perfect fantasy World would be ruined. All the 'fantasy' you had built up in your head. Thinking you are 'winning' 'cause you don't have to 'fathom' the thought of your girl having sex with anyone else. All the 'bragging' about that you have done and....AND....you found out out of curiosity on what PORN EVEN LOOKED LIKE under the guise that your 'woman' couldn't POSSIBLY HAVE DONE ANY SORT OF FILMING? Damm it, why couldn't this happen to someone young and black? (Yeah..I said it..) I would LOVE TO SEE THE EGO DEFLATED IN THAT MANNER. All that hoe talk ya'll do...


Interesting that she didn't tell him btw ONLY BECAUSE she was EQUALLY AS POMPOUS enough to that she found a man who would NEVER FIND OUT she did that 'cause he 'just wasn't into that kinda stuff anyway...'.... Hilarious. (Oh you thought I wasn't going to go in on her? Wrong! ) 


Now I'm not THAT MUCH OF AN ASSHOLE. I feel bad the dude found out the way he did but honestly....


I live in the real World. The one where folks do what they did until you came along. @ having a past. I ain't about to sit up and judge someone's past I am just now finding out about some AT LEAST 16 YEARS AGO. Probably longer because he was an ex and then THE CURRENT COUPLE HAD A RELATIONSHIP.. We are almost talking two decades here folks. I know some of you can't fathom that because you have barely been on the EARTH for that long/are just really starting out doing things for yourself that long but that is a LONG TIME. It was a long time ago. Should it hurt? Yes. However, if he was truly as happy as he said, it will dissipate. As I also know 'grown relationships', I'm pretty sure he has his fair share of things that had to be 'forgiven' as NOBODY IS PERFECT nor do the enter into a Union that way... This isn't Fantasy Island.....




Hubby watching porn online finds film starring his wife - Emirates 24/7


Hubby watching porn online finds film starring his wife

An Egyptian man who went online to watch a porno film for the first time got the shock of his life when he found that the woman in the film was his own wife.
The man, identified as Ramadan, instantly collapsed in disbelief on the floor at an internet shop before coming round and rushing home to face his unfaithful wife.
The woman first denied his allegations and started to swear at him, prompting her husband to face her with the film.
Unable to deny it any more, she confessed to have betrayed him with her pre-marriage boy friend, telling him she had never loved him although they had four children during their 16-year marriage.
“I found 11 films showing my wife in indecent scenes with her lover….it was the first time I watched a porno film and I did this just out of curiosity,” Ramadan told Egyptian newspapers at his house in the northeastern province of Dakhalia.
“She first denied it and accused me of being insane before I faced her with the films…she then confessed to be still in love with her boyfriend, saying he is as young as her and that I am an old man.”
Ramadan said he had been happy during his marriage life until he logged on to that website. Newspapers did not say whether he decided to divorce her.
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(Video) I don't hate Vanessa. I don't like the judicial system. As Eddie Murphy said here...

If you marry somebody and YOU BUILD SOMETHING TOGETHER...COOL..He was right.

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David Tyree...speaks on Gay Marriage...video..



I mean but hey, it is his opinion. (Shrugs)
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I am not here to change ya'll minds either. I am just posting up the video..A Wedding...

I had to title it that way because I know some of you are made to feel bad 'cause you aren't married. I am NOT HERE TO DO THAT. If you don't want to be married, I AM MORE THAN OKAY WITH IT. This isn't an indictment of you. So don't come over my way 'projecting' and assuming the worst. It isn't me fam....

It is to show those who are interested in what the day MIGHT (I said MIGHT dammit) look like for those of you who have never been involved in a FULL wedding. (Yes, ninja I said FULL.This OBVIOUSLY differs a bit if you are going to just go to the Justice of the Peace and get hitched. Get over it.)

Now a lot of you WHO ARE FOLLOWING THE BLOG have been in such events so I am sure this video will conjure up some good memories for you. 

P.S...
This is shot in pretty high quality which leads me to believe that it is REALLY RECENT. With all the 'news' about what black folks (or folks of color in general) AREN'T DOING in regards to marriage, it is a pretty good sight to see for me. (Waits for the hateriffic comments about some 'the past' to fall from some of ya'lls poisonous lips...See, that's why YOU DON'T HAVE SHIT or a shitty relationship NOW...Let me stop...This is a positive post...) 



the triple threat sde // parts one and two from stillmotion on Vimeo.
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Nelly_Mo speaking on his relationship w/Ashanti....& marriage. Why he is waiting...

I don't blame him for doing it the way he wants to (CORRECTION...THE WAY THEY WANT TO)

It makes sense if you listen to him.  @ 'friends' statement. Kinda wish he had done it sooner to shut us all up., truthfully. They handle their shit they way they want to and that is all that really matters...

I say that as a person who handles his affairs the same way. I could give two fucks what anyone has to say about it so I am sure they feel the same when it all comes down to it.


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and now your Church might tell you to give up Facebook if you are married? Tells Tom he shoulda kept it with college kids...

What is even more interesting is that I am going to share it on.......FACEBOOK. Isn't it ironic?- Alanis...(The last part of the title is for effect. Article doesn't say that. Outwardly anyway...lol)


You know, I don't know WHAT side of this to stand on other that the whole 'People are gonna do what they are gonna do...' side of it. Obviously, preventive measures should be taken by all to ensure (avoid) things go the way they are supposed to. I am not so sure if it is as cut and dry as 'Delete your Facebook 'cause it is THE PROBLEM. I can't say it doesn't cause problems but I don't see them as any less prevalent than those caused by attending a gathering with one's former 'real world social group', going down that same street that you used to umm...you know with you know who,hitting up the mall, or 'going back home' for the holidays. These all conjure up 'memories', chance meetings, chance encounters and the like to me. Nevermind all of these high school reunions, old school dances, boys/girls nights out,  zumba classes, going to the gym, walking the dog at the newly minted dog park....You get the point right? What are you gonna do? Stay inside, put a recording device in your partner's face when they do go out and stay on ready all the time for fear of this? Not be social AT ALL ESPECIALLY IF YOU WERE ALWAYS A SOCIAL PERSON? I mean at the same time, you can't just sit back and KNOWINGLY let shit be but damm....At this point, Facebook's BIGGEST detractors are even on it FULL FORCE. @ the type that would have championed this when they didn't 'get' Facebook. This is gonna be interesting if it spreads Nationwide as things like this tend to do. Monkey see monkey do society that we are....

What did people back in the days before this technology existed do? Before you mount your horse, PLEASE THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO SAY. Some of you are meeting your brothers and sisters (aunts and uncles, cousins, etc,etc) FOR THE FIRST TIME THIS YEAR because of things done in the past. So please spare me the 'it wasn't done then' routine. I know better. You do too. People might find out about it sooner now but there is no 'spike' in it being done. We have just become blood thirsty to see others do bad ESPECIALLY in this regard...(See the addictions people have to shows like Maury and Cheaters if you don't believe me. (Shows I hate btw. Fuck I wanna sit around & watch folks fight over their relationship business for? I got my own shit to take care of..) People aren't watching 'cause they feel 'sorry for the person who is being cheated on'. They want to see that action when they find out.)


Anyway, I am going to leave you with the story...Which I find hilarious/sad/truthful/meaningful/petty on many levels all at the same time. From the fact that the Pastor has a Facebook account himself (he said he would delete per his own advice) to the single person talking about people having passwords and if they didn't, something is AUTOMATICALLY  'wrong'. (As if there is nothing wrong with someone either hiding the password OR someone ADAMANTLY wanting their spouse's password. Both scream something*....) The fact that if you DO CHECK ON YOUR SPOUSE'S SHIT EVERY DAY and you find something 'odd' and you flip out, knowing you entertain that cute lunch guy at work every day to get more food or that cute gal at one of your 'stops' on the job, you are just as bad and guilty. People swear they want to know everything that everyone has ever said to their SO and if they ever found out they would leave. You might as well not even 'start' in my opinion then. You are doomed. 'Cause shit that could be 'misconstrued', taken the wrong way or is flat out wrong and foul is said EVERY DAY. Every day you come in contact with another human. From the most 'moral' person saying it in so many words to the out and out 'I'mma lay it out there' girl/gal.

Alas, we can't have a 'real' conversation about this because everyone will be too busy wanting to be 'right' as opposed to just not living in 'FantasyLand'. 'Cause a real conversation would entail that very fact I just stated. We are just gonna keep playing that 'not me' game or "I don't see that' shit.  pfft....Watch someone read this and say "Ooooh...he is saying it is RIGHT TO DO WRONG BY YOUR SPOUSE...OOOHHHH.." Try taking a reading comprehension class at night at your local community college idiot. I didn't say that. I said that things aren't 'cut and dry' and stated SOME REASONS WHY..This isn't the Leave It To Beaver. This is real life and if you are a party to the problem that isn't negated by you 'finding something'. That's all I am saying.





*It screams 'Shit has happened to me and I wonder if it is happening to you..9/10...in case you are wondering.The minute a human (man or woman) stops to think "Well if I am getting action, hit on, talked to, interest, whatever, I wonder what HE/SHE IS GETTING OVER THERE..." is when the password asking starts up. Yeah, it happens during questionable behavior too but sometimes that behavior is not done by the spouse in question.....Think about these phrases for a minute if you are still unclear...All can have the 'he' and 'she''s/males/females reversed out where need be.




"Now I know if her girl is getting love on Facebook at these parties and she is with her...."


"I see you got a lot of female friends on Facebook, I know I have male friends but they know the deal...."

"Who is that person that I don't know keekeein' up in them pictures of OUR CHILD.....Yeah I know I commented on my friend's pics of their kids but you know..you KNOW THEM. Remember I told you about who they were...." (As if telling someone about someone who you knew in the 3rd grade is MAGICALLY MAKES ONE KNOW THEM...LOL..) 


Now I know at this point some of you are laughing your asses off, running through your mental files to see if you can catch any glimmer of me in the statements or perhaps yourselves or just flat out shaking your heads....So read the article and enjoy it. Feel FREE to comment. I am interested in your take on it.






http://www.popfi.com/2010/11/18/new-jersey-pastor-bans-facebook-for-his-flock/

The Bible says that if something causes you to sin, whether it’s your eye or hand or foot, that you should cut it off, because it’s better to be blinded or lame and going to Heaven than to have all your parts and end up going to Hell.  That’s why the Reverend Cedric Miller, pastor of the Living Word Christian Fellowship Church, has issued a strange request of his flock.  Reverend Miller has asked the married couples in his Neptune, New Jersey, congregation to delete their Facebook accounts.
Of course, Rev. Miller has a very good reason for this.  To him, and to a lot of people, Facebook is a tool for cheating, so he’s asking his congregation to delete the temptation and delete Facebook from their lives.  Reverend Miller, who uses Facebook to keep up with his six children, said the deletion will start with himself.
“I’ve been in extended counseling with couples with marital problems because of Facebook for the last year and a half,” said Rev. Miller.  “What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups.  The temptation is just too great.  The advice will go to the entire church.  They’ll hear what I’m asking of my church leadership.  I won’t mandate it for the entire congregation,
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New Rai and Snickers....(My favorite married cartoon but real life couple)-Open Marriage

'Maybe if you'd do a dish up in this motherfcuker I wouldn't be fantasizing about living in sin....'- Rai

Whoooooooo!!- Ric Flair


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Probably the MOST important part of the whole Kendra sextape thing to me..





"Kendra Wilkinson's sex tape is scheduled to be released to record-setting preorders Wednesday and that has made her marriage the subject of much scrutiny.


Link courtesy of radaronline:

"After all, not every husband would accept having the world see his wife intimate with another man.

PHOTOS: Sex Tape Celebs

But a close friend of Kendra and Hank Baskett told RadarOnline.com exclusively that the sex tape has not adversely affected their marriage. "This happened when she was young. He already knew about this. She told him about this before they got married,” the friend said.

HONEYMOON PHOTOS: Kendra Wilkinson Is A Pregnant Bikini Bride

"She was young and was in love with her boyfriend and thought she was going to marry him and it just didn't turn out that way."

The friend stressed that Hank loves Kendra and is fully aware about her past.."




If you don't know why I think this is important, I can't help you. I would like to help you understand why this a big deal but it is probably not in the cards this go around. Perhaps one day. You aren't ready for that kind of truth yet. The only truth you deal with is a set of rules set forth by some fictional 'code of conduct book' that exists for those in movies, songs and fictional tales. You are probably still running around doing whatever it is you want to whomever you want, wanting it to be overlooked 'cause it is YOU and handing out Scarlett Letters to people who do as you do. I can't change your mind so I won't try. Good luck with all of that. To you I say this simple phrase....

I wish you all the success in the World and I will even turn a blind eye to your failures. -My Grandmother (and probably T.I's grandmother too)

If you do know why this would be important, hats off to you. Simple as that. You know what a real commitment means and what it means to 'know your spouse'. What it means not to give a shit what people who ultimately don't care about you think anyway. Now in no way does this make you less intelligent or any of that 'cause you know and understand that 'being human' is par for the course. Especially when you were younger. You haven't forgotten the things that you have partaken in and you don't judge people in that light lest you be judged with that same light....


But...but...she is getting paid for it...Which means she isn't shit..-You

Pipe down with that self righteous bullshit. Tape was gonna come out regardless. See Pam Anderson and her shit. She sued. It still came out. We still all saw it then she got her money. Why go through all of that? Pay me now. You are gonna release it anyway in some fashion. She is not an idiot is all that is to me. Pay me before you tie me up in court for years and whittle away at my settlement. I did all the work afterall.@ my take on the whole 'got paid for it' thing.

Well Mr.Blogger, what was your take on it when the news broke? Thought you would never ask....Here ya go...

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What I was waiting for...Lamar to speak on Khloe..

I just wanted to hear it in his words. Not that I didn't believe him but I just wanted to hear him talk about it. That's all. He says a lot. Apparently there is a pre-nup issue...I won't speak on that. I will wait for all of that to come out...@ whether this is all fake and whatnot.









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Two days in a row...lol


I just have a very simple question today.

What is it with all of these people who seemed, for lack of a better word, irritated at those who decide to get married?

I am not getting it. I probably could if it was people who actually might have a steady supply of trim and are content with their situation only to have to hear someone's mouth. But it isn't that contingent. It is the 'happily single' folks who are speaking out LOUDLY against it. I cram to understand- MC LYTE

It is quite simple. If you don't like the idea of marriage, quit running up on cats trying to make them change YOUR MIND. You don't have to get married. It's okay. No one is going to shoot you or shun you.

On a brighter note, the President elect will be passing through my area on the way to D.C. I am planning on going. Hopefully I will still be up to writing on here and I can tell you all about it. Maybe I will get a better picture than the one above of him this time...
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November 18th, 2023. Still being able to have joy for others.

Her death never took that from me.  Losing my Mama and Daddy never took this from me.  Life hasn't taken this away from me. Bitter exes ...