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Leaking back/RESTRAINING ORDERS/ More lies/Feeling Unsafe/Victimhood, posting the blogs link in the group: My response.

Hey Cait, I'm glad you think the blog is Gold for you down there in Middletown and that my wife's death and the subsequent things are entertaing for you. 




You too Brittany in Stanton. 




The one who posted for:

Cassandra Marie Lesniczak  Nee Mccormick. 

Cassandra Marie Lesniczak-Hamm, her name from her SECOND MARRIAGE that she likes to act like didn't happen or end until THE SUMMER OF 2015.* 

Or just plain Cassie as you know her. 

Also, glad that you caught the guy that disrespected your daughter too. He deserved it. I'm glad you caught him and I'm assuming now you are fighting the good fight to eradicate all the bad men out there. I'm sure that doesn't include the bad women though because if it did, you'd know you are fucking with a known liar who was on a similar site your child's abuser was on. I'll let you do your own research on her. Who has a history of putting minors in harmful situations herself... But hey, SOLIDARITY FOR WOMAN even when they are lying right? @ the rules of that place you guys inhabit. 

Back to you Cass. 

I hadn't actually 'seen' the post, just heard about it from a few people. Now I have seen so I can really speak on it..

Your chief complaint was that I was boring, my kids took up all my time and when they didn't, the gym and basketball did. 

You know, being a parent by myself to my children. Oh..the HORROR of me being a parent unlike the Father of the kids you have according to you. At this point, I think you are lying on him too. Yes, I remember the text messages but in TRUE CASSANDRA FASHION, you only showed me bits and pieces. Not the WHOLE THREAD. I wonder why?? 

You know where I'm at. You know what I do. You know full well you don't have to worry about me coming to do anything to you because I'd have to 'make time' to do it. That's why you had that hissy fit in 2021 when my daughter had my granddaughter. Bitching about me not having any time and how I needed to 'punish her' for having her but at the same time support her. Did you forget that vile and venom stuff you texted me and ending sarcastically with "Go ahead and be a Pop Pop.."? Did you tell the people that part? 

Of course you didn't tell the people any of this stuff. That doesn't fit the narrative that I have ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD TO COME MAKE MY LIFE ABOUT STALKING YOUR STUPID ASS.  

You made it clear you didn't appreciate the time I did make for you when we were together, so I'm CERTAINLY not going to make time to do something TO YOU so that I could go to jail. Maybe your nutty ass would do something like that but I'm certainly not. 

Cut the shit out about stalking me for your safety. Girl please. You are stalking me because you want to find out about my Life and I've blocked you on EVERY PLACE IMAGINABLE. I even blocked your ass on SPOTIFY. I don't even want you to know firsthand what music I play. It's that serious.You can try to hide behind your victimhood all you want though. 

You got shut out completely in Aug. 2022. You are control freak like your mother who likes to control you. Are you out from under her thumb yet? You still owe her that money so she can finally stop telling you what to do or?? 

Nobody wants to harm you and as I've told you on NUMEROUS OCCASIONS, I'm not going to jail OVER YOU. 

That statement alone used to hurt your soul because you need someone to be that into you that they have to lose their mind if they don't have you. 

I don't even want to be AROUND YOUR ASS. You are a nag, a miserable, self centered, entitled, broken, insecure, lying ass person so you nor that other chick would NEVER have to worry about that.  

It's all in your own heads. Probably because you constantly have my deceased wife's name and mine in your mouths and you know that someone else who was far less civilized would have been done something to you. Matter of fact, someone has gotten at you for violating them in that way and as usual, you played victim. It's not about you being afraid nobody would believe you because you are telling the TRUTH. It's because you know you are a pathological liar who gets caught lying and stealing ALL THE TIME. 

You are hoping that is it me so that you can see me suffer. Nope. Jokes on you Jack. 😉

I could probably end the post here. 

I won't. I will elaborate. 

I only know of the page because you originally were sending me the posts. At this point, that page has been compromised. It's all over Reddit and the Internet. I don't have numbers so I won't say things like 'half of the posts are leaked'. I don't know. All I know is that folks are told that they are on there. You guys have to constantly make posts reminding your members not to snitch. The snitch is usually the person who either made the post or had someone post for them. That's how people find out that they are posted.  

Self included. You sent me the original posts. Now, others are sending me them though.. I can't imagine anyone leaking things that were true if they were in the group to help protect women but hey. Not my call. 

You posting the blog's link in the group further illuminated it. Good job. Your name was never in my posts but thanks to the link, now people know it's you. You getting that good dopamine hit aren't you? Feels good in the moment? Good. Remember that when you get fired like you did from your last job for making comments on the Internet and harassment. For those of you who don't know, SHE WORKS AS A TEACHER IN A LOCAL MENTAL FACILITY. 

Imagine her bosses finding out her viewpoints, how she's handling delicate subjects like suicide with the clients they are serving? The things she's said in writing over the years have gotten her fired. 

Wait, don't. You guys will probably justify it somehow. 

Don't worry. Her job won't. She knows that too. That's why she's not posting that on HER FACEBOOK PAGE. On HER SOCIAL MEDIA. 

She knows better. 

You see, if she was truly scared or wanted action, she'd be doing it THERE. She's not doing it to spare me, or out of fear of retaliation because she JUST SAID she knows the posts get back to me either so fuck outta here with all that shit. She put my name in the posts. She put it in a place where her co-workers and family don't go and she hopes they never find out. 

Don't believe me? Ask HER why she doesn't teach at Mckean High School anymore. She resigned for the record but ask her WHY they asked her to resign BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T DO SO OF HER OWN FREE WILL. She wanted to stay. They were going to fire her. I went WITH HER TO HER ARBITRATION MEETING FOR RED CLAY OVER THERE IN NEWPORT. I watched her walk out looking defeated as her Union rep told her she'd better take the deal and lose her teaching cert than have them max her ass out in court. 

Oh, I'm telling too much of her business now? You LOVED it when she lied about mine. I'm not lying here though. These are facts. There are 9k of you in that group. I know ONE OF YOU WORKS IN RED CLAY or hell ANY DISTRICT and can ask around about her AND FIND OUT. Don't get shy about digging in people's business now. 

This isn't DEFLECTION. This is showing you that she's a LIAR and she has no credibility. Period. She's actually a thief too but I'll try to show some restraint. Look up Sept 2019 on New Castle County's Police Site. WantedWednesdays...   As many times as I had to hear all about her VERY PUBLIC and disgraceful actions and hold me head up and she is out here trying to besmirch my name? Please

Ask her about the time she got caught stealing at Kohl's, where my FRIEND IS HEAD OF SECURITY AND SHOWED ME THE TAPE? 

Ask her about stealing from her In-laws? They locked her as up for a night and SHE WAS THE ONE HAVING SUICIDAL thoughts. I have those texts still. I had to talk her ass down. Good thing I have ALREADY BEEN THROUGH IT HUH? 

Ask her why she's not a Case Worker for the State anymore? Ask her what happened when she got messy on the Internet/harassed someone offline (Like she's doing me now with these posts in this group)  and how her boss got the call about that one? Ask her how long she got to stick around after that....

Our business is fully out there now. Lies or not. I'm not sure what compelled you to take this route seeing at though I HAVE NOT CONTACTED YOU even though you've tried to contact me. You called in Nov. Reached around in numerous ways through others..

...upon reading what I just wrote I think I know why you went this route. 

You have a therapist. So you say. You have meds, I have seen those and was with you as you switched to different ones. Some helped. Some didn't. Some you refuse to take because they affect your appearance, which I can actually understand to a degree but.... Do you still take them? You can't be... 

All I know is that the posts get sent to me. There are about 30 people doing it which is a small % for the group but a number that meets the goals you set Cassandra. You wanted people to 'know your story' and now they do. Congratulations!! It is YOUR side of it and you get to tell it. I told you that a long time ago. I'm going to present some facts to dispel the lies and all but tell your story Cassandra. Either people believe it or they don't. 

Which is the issue. There are people that 'know'. The only problem is that they aren't people who are 'late to the show' and they saw you act a fucking fool in real time during the time periods you are talking about. The people sending stuff have actually been around YOU and seen you in other situations. They know how you get down. 

I see you using your white privies to be the 'victim'. 

Stalking someone you purposely are trying to antagonize because you are scared of them? That's a good one! You know what? I'm so scared of him that I'm going to FUCK WITH HIM. Yeah.. that's the answer. 

Oh yeah girl LEAN INTO THAT VICTIMHOOD. MESSAGING PEOPLE WHO AREN'T MESSAGING YOU that you think I should kill myself like my wife did and then being scared to see me in public? LYING ABOUT ME ON A PAGE and then being scared of me? Interesting... 

You cited an incident THAT YOU STARTED by coming to MY GAME and deciding that my own nephew mother's presence gave you the right to snap out and cause a scene but YOU ARE THE VICTIM because of a 'thrown bag' at your car? You always did think you could do and say whatever you wanted and NOBODY WAS EVER TO SAY OR DO ANYTHING. You drug your kids up there. Not me. My kid was there too but hey, EVERYTHING IS ABOUT CASSANDRA and her white victimhood. It was a recurring theme that I grew weary of in our relationship. 

A relationship that you actually called a "FWB" in one of you manic meltdowns in 2019.... For the record. 

This incident was in 2017. Funny how you were SO SCARED OF ME that you continued to pursue me SEVERAL TIMES after we broke up for good until 2022. Also funny how you ended up asking ME TO MEET YOU only a day later after I called off our relationship on THAT DAY.  Did you tell the people that? Nope. I saw the list. You just listed it as an 'incident'.

You definitely have plenty of 'stories' though. Stories that go JUST LIKE THIS ONE, where you did some foul shit and I finished it. My mistake was continuing the saga when you, as you famously would always say, "Did all the reaching to continue the relationship..". I didn't continue the saga because I 'needed you', which is what most of your list really says was the problem, but because I WANTED TO BE WITH YOU. 

You speak about things you know nothing about on that list and your math is REALLY FUZZY. I don't owe you or anyone else reading that list a rundown of my finances, how I got it or what money I'm still spending. That was another one of your controlling issues. You didn't really know 'how I got money' other than I clearly wasn't doing anything illegal 'cause you could find me doing some pretty mundane stuff and being there for my kids. Unlike your kid's Father. You couldn't control me with your vagina, I didn't need you to cook or clean for me and your attractiveness wasn't enough to make me just shut up and do what you asked. That's where the vast majority of things you listed come into play. 

You are a control freak just like your mother was to you and your Father. Which is why he left. You've been fighting trying to be like her but it was her who raised you. It was her working at the University you went to that allowed you to GO FOR FREE. Stop it with the 'boot straps' narrative you are running on those people in that group and in Life. It's okay if you didn't pay but get your nose outta the air and stop being haughty. You had jobs in school LIKE THE REST OF US.

Hell, I was double dippng at two banks (MBNA and Beneficial)  WHILE GOING TO SCHOOL FULL TIME before you were scooping ice cream out at your teenage job. Maybe if you knew that, you'd know HOW I do what I do NOW. I still work, just differently than you. 

This isn't me shitting on punching a clock either because I MIGHT GO BACK TO IT after I finish raising my kids. Which you definitely left out on your list that was posted to make me look like I do NOTHING. Hell, I took YOUR KIDS TO THEIR FIELD DAY WHEN NEITHER OF YOU COULD DO IT because they'd have had no one to show up. 

I SEE YOU TOOK THE POST DOWN. They can see YOUR NAME NOW THOUGH. Like you exposed mine. Fair play. Thank you. I've BEEN ASKED YOU TAKE TAGGED PICTURES OF ME OR US UP DOWN trying to make it look like we are cordial. We are NOT FUCKING CORDIAL. At. All. 

Oh and don't think because you took those pictures/the post down that you get to lie about it 'NEVER HAPPENING' because I have the pictures MYSELF. 

I'm the one who gave them TO YOU, remember? 

Yeah. So, try your lying game all you like. They are DIGITALLY stamped and in the archives.

Tighten up your privacy settings Cassandra. Think Tik Tok, you, Carly and the young lady you swore I was in a relationship with. Maybe that will jog your memory as to why I say that... 

You ASKED ME TO DO THINGS and I delivered. Just like any other time he came up short or YOU COULDN'T DO IT because you of your job. You sure did benefit from flexibility that I MAKE SURE HAPPENS and you HAD NO INPUT IN, now didn't you? You don't want to talk about that though. 

I saw that little crack about me putting stuff up here and one would be able to see the 'motive'. That's a CUTE TRICK designed for me to not be able to mention anything I did for you so I can't defend myself. Helluva set up! Well played. 

CLASSIC NARC TRICKS you've been running for decades. It won't stop me from saying what I did though and why I did it. Good try though. 

I helped you. It happened. Read YOUR OWN WORDS in the post you put up since you want to send people to my blog to ridicule my Life, my wife's death and such. There was no ulterior motive when I did that. I did that for the love. You are THE USER though. Doing nothing without having something to gain. Which is why I didn't want you doing for MY KIDS and you didn't get to. Which burned you up. 

Infidelty? You really want to fix your mouth to talk about infidelty when you FUCKED YOUR SECOND EX HUSBAND'S BEST FRIEND and were in his company not only before you officially separated but during and after? I was never unfaithful in my marriage or to you. Before then, I probably wasn't shit just like the rest of us honestly but after? Nah. That didn't happen. 

YOU WERE THOUGH. You argued with me far too many times in text about the timeline of that relationship with JT. Only one of us knew the bodies of at least 5 different people in an intimate way OVER THE COURSE OF OUR 6-7 YEARS TOGETHER and wasn't me. I won't count the assault you said happened when you were out there doing your thing because doing your thing or not, you DIDN'T DESERVE TO BE ASSAULTED but you know your motives prior to the encounter turning bad. 

Oh, am I doing too much by speaking about a tragic event that happened to you? Join the club ma'am as you speak SUPER GLIB when it comes to Melissa's death and how one should be 'over it'. Something you not only did IN OUR RELATIONSHIP to cause a reaction out of me ON PURPOSE but you continue to do further to show much of a victim you 'are'.  

How did you start your latest post in that group?

"I don't care.." 

Yeah. THAT. You don't care. I don't care. I'm still holding back a bit but barely. I should have BEEN blasted your ass but I thought we could end quietly. 

Nope. 

Your son was in therapy WHEN WE MET. Due to the issues with his Father and other stuff. I mean, he did see you divorce twice so there are probably a lot of things to unpack. Let's not do that. Again, lying to the people. He actually did see some shit during our relationship that he probably needs to see someone about because your behavior during it and your constant speaking ill of a dead woman to her children was some EVIL SHIT to see. Ditto with you talking to him about our relationship, lying to him and then still MAINTAINING THE RELATIONSHIP that you were lying about. Yeah, so he probably is in therapy over the relationship. His mother has no fucking clue how to have a HEALTHY ONE and he's had a front row seat to it. 

He's a good kid too so unlike your unsavory ass, I don't have to DISPARAGE him to get at you. He's a kid. Like any other kid, he's had stuff he's had to work through. With a mother like you though, it's no surprise. 

The 110 texts were a RESPONSE TO YOUR 50 PLUS texts you were sending to me when you KNEW I wasn't available. Even if they weren't, COMMUNICATION is key. As the people can see here, I CLEARLY KNOW HOW TO GIVE MORE THAN ONE AND TWO WORD ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS. That's not my fault that you like to be the more 'educated' of the two people in a relationship and cannot fathom loads of information that you could EASILY READ AT YOUR LEISURE like you did when you 'woke up from trying to get some sleep.' Your ass wasn't worried about sleeping to get ready for work when you called me at 11:00 THAT NIGHT to start your bullshit. Cut it out Cassandra and stop telling half truths. Stop trying to make it seem like I was some pyscho stalking your ass. Your CHIEF COMPLAINT WAS THAT I DIDN'T CHASE YOU. Make up your fucking mind weirdo. 

Your phone was on DnD because you WOKE UP TO THE MESSAGES so your sleep wasn't actually DISTURBED now was it? Again, you need to be the victim of some heinous act though. 

Besides, aren't we men supposed to COMMUNICATE? Or is that only when we are 'spoken to'? You better keep adopting dogs if you want to control communications then because that shit is not going to fly with another human being. Yes, you can ask to end conversations and it will be respected but we were TEXTING.

LET'S GET BACK TO THIS BOGUS ASS CLAIM OF YOUR SAFETY, the safety of others and the 'furniture'.

 'Cause you were talking about yourself there. Not my 'other' girlfriends. The whole list was about you actually. You can stop the bs. The math TL dictates it couldn't have been a TON OF PEOPLE. I was only widowed in Nov. 2012. I didn't even start to DATE until 2014 and no GIRLFRIENDS or people living with me. They couldn't have left furniture because they never lived here, nevermind spend any real time in my home. If they even MADE IT TO MY HOUSE. 

Your 'sister in commonality of dating me', didn't LIVE HERE. She came to my house from time to time and left clothes in my closet. Clothes I asked her to remove and since it was her stuff, I thought common courtesy was to not throw it away. Just like you did with your ex boyfriend (HUSBAND) stuff when it was in your garage when I met you. You know, his firefighter suit and such? 

I STILL HAVE THE EMAIL where she ADMITTED she was at fault for trying to blame her problems on me AND HOW SHE didn't want me to wait for her and sleep with other people. Which I declined and asked to just break up. Which she wouldn't do. So THEN, I dropped her stuff off at her parent's house because THAT'S WHERE SHE WAS LIVING. I know this date is going to trigger you but let's see if you are delusional enough to tell people we actually were in a relationship the first week of Oct. 2015 when we had JUST MET 10/2. That is the narrative you always like to go with when Carly is bought up in regards to us being in a relationship. That I was dating you at the same time I was actually with her. That's why you felt the need to befriend her. Not that I was MARRIED to either one of you broads but I wasn't with her and owed you NO LOYALTY at that point. We just met. 

The email was sent 9/30/2015 and it had been an event that happened TWO WEEKS before that. You see, your friend left out that little tidbit when she befriended you. I wonder why? 

Of course it was a 'safe place' because she lived there. Way to remix it though with your narc ass to try to make it seem like she had to meet me somewhere safe because she was or IS SCARED. She didn't even know I was dropping her shit off! There was no arrangements to come get her stuff because she was still saying to KEEP IT. 

Remember, just this past November (2022), you and Carly (the person we are talking about here.) were kee kee it up about Carly seeing me allegedly at my kid's game with me looking sad when you were harassing my female friend thinking she was dating me? Where she said I SAW HER AND DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING TO HER? Remember that? It's in writing. Although I actually didn't see her nor would have reacted to her either way because my kid's are my focus. I saw your ass dropping your kid off at OUR KIDS school and didn't say or do ANYTHING. 

I have the screenshot of that conversation but again, keep LYING to the people. A conversation that you apparently have doctored up, in your usual fashion. @ fake accounts that reply TO EACH OTHER to look like two people are having a conversation. This post got back to that person and uh oh...Looks like another one of your elaborate lies has unraveled. Where do you find the time to make all of these fake accounts Cassandra? I guess I should be glad you aren't Cosplaying a black person like you normally do when you make fake accounts. 

Scared? Hardly. 

We live in the same area. 9.8 miles away from each other. You complained that you wouldn't come to  my house because you didn't feel comfortable in mine and how we never saw each other. So I only came over your house. 

A house I HELPED YOU MOVE INTO from the other house that I helped you move into AFTER I KICKED YOU OUT OF MY HOUSE. When you had to leave your furniture here because you moved into your Aunt's house at first. 

Then, it was you wanted to leave a piece of you in my house. 

Then, when I said I was going to throw the stuff out, you complained I must have wanted to get rid of in case 'another woman came over..". So I kept some stuff here at YOUR BEHEST. 

The one thing that wasn't at your behest was the table. Why? YOU MADE ME THROW MINE OUT BECAUSE IT WAS THE ONE I HAD IN THE HOUSE WITH MELISSA. 

You were triggered by a FUCKING TABLE. A table. 

Did you tell the people that part? NO. 

So yeah, I KEPT 'YOUR TABLE' because you made me throw out mine. It's a fucking table. We eat at it. We should have never had to throw the other one out. There was room for both! 

I compromised for you AND I"m supposed to be out of a table because you didn't know how to not toss my deceased children's mother's name around and speak ill of her like a weapon to start fights in my house and GOT YOURSELF KICKED OUT? 

I think the fuck not. If it were you, I wouldn't have let another woman do that just because you were passed away. You are the fuck crazy for thinking that your disrespect is okay. 

Now, you are worried about your safety because you can't post anon? Or have chosen not to, since you posted below in the post. 

That's not my fucking problem. Perhaps you should leave me alone and then you'd have nothing to worry about. 

You asked that same female friend you were harassing, who lives AT LEAST 800 MILES AWAY FROM HERE, about meeting up to give me back the ring I gave you. 

OH WAIT, YOU DIDN'T TELL THE PEOPLE ABOUT THE RING? 

Or did you tell them that I gave it to you with a 'motive' in mind? 

I mean, I HOPE that giving someone a ring would have some sort of goal but go off Cass. 

You don't remember asking her if I wanted to meet you to get it back and what my answer was?

Let me help you. 

I told her I had NO DESIRE TO MEET YOU ANYWHERE OR SEE YOU AT ALL EVER AGAIN. I told her to tell you to keep it because I GAVE IT TO YOU and it was yours to do with what you please.

 You could use it as a dummy ring for all I care. Sell the mofo. Use it to ward off men when you went out. I didn't give a shit. 

It's all in Messenger. Screenshotted in case you forgot you did it. Which you will lie and say it never happened. YOU KNOW ME. It's why you hated arguing with me. 

I STAY WITH THE PROOF. Come test me though. Your whole entire biz will be out here. Keep fucking around. 

I HAVE THE PICTURES and the texts of the day I gave it to you so I know what it is. I even have the conversation where you stated you didn't want to call it an engagement ring, you didn't know what to call it but that you needed SOMETHING. So I got it. 

You swore that ring would be enough too. That you'd be happy with it and all the 'troubles' would go away. 

It wasn't. 

A ring that you begged for and EVEN LIED AND SAID THAT YOU HAD to others when you didn't have one? 

There goes that word and you again. Lying. Famous for it. 

You also said in that text exchange with that young lady used to teach you told you had a ring, when you didn't, that 'Black men love you.." but hey, I'm the egomanic. 😂 You know if that young lady EVER HEARS about that post in that group, she'll gladly get kicked out of that group just to post that story where she blasted your ass. You know it. 

She already put your ass on Tik Tok. Keep fucking around. There's more in that story than even I AM TELLING. One of your former co-workers is in that post too? Shieeet. You wanted attention though. It's coming your way. Hope you can handle it. 

You see, you NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR SAFETY as far as I am concerned because I never want to see you again. 

I WAS MAKING TIME TO SEE YOU.  

I keep alluding to 2025 because I'll have to see you on that day because our kids graduate and I REITERATE, PLEASE DON' T DO THAT FAKE WHITE THING WHERE YOU TRY TO BE CORDIAL. Just don't fucking speak to me at all. I won't be speaking to you. 

You KNOW I watch my granddaughter so I'm SUPER BUSY with her and my youngest kid. You know that though. I'm hardly ever even in the STATE from April to September and you KNOW WHY. 

Nobody would even have TIME TO THREATEN YOUR SAFETY.  It's why you "left" remember? I was too busy for you even though you have kids and I was supposed to always understand your constantly changing schedule. Which I ALWAYS DID. 

Maybe I needed to bitch about it more so you knew I cared. I just rolled with it because I'm an adult. Those were you reasons and I didn't 'fight it' and said LOSE MY FUCKING NUMBER. Got tired of making time for someone who didn't appreciate it or didn't reciprocate coming to my house. It was a one way relationship for WELL OVER 3 YEARS at that point. 

Safety my ass. Matter of fact, it was fear of safety that led me to do the thing below the last time..Keep reading. 

 Let's get into that since you only wanted to tell the people that you 'had stories' but didn't want to go into details. You know you can't because you are going to get AWFULLY DIRTY if we start talking about those stories you are alluding to. That's why you picked the one you did choose to tell about. 

Oh and please PLEASE keep incriminating yourself PUBLICLY in a private group....

The court is probably not gonna like the fact that after the last time we had a session, you promised that if we broke up you'd leave me alone and that there would be NO NEED FOR THE COURTS TO DECIDE TO HONOR A RESTRAINING ORDER for ME because you knew how to act like an adult. 

You sure did promise that judge that you would move on civilly if we had another break up. 

Those posts you keep making, in the 'name of safety' sure don't sound like you are honoring that. 

The Instagram messages to other people I know, talking about me and rejoicing in me reacting to things you were saying to them, sure didn't sound like a person who was worried about their 'safety' to me. 

The anon messages...the restricted phone calls... to my phone.. Popping up in my Instagram stories under those SUPER WACK variations of that  'Narc_proof_and_thriving_" AND I_am_healing_and_strong accounts sure don't sound like you are moving on peacefully. The messages you sent to people I know from the I_am_healing_and_strong accounts where you now apparently 'faked' being Carly are, in a word you love to use when you hit me from your fake accounts, pathetic. The last attempt from 'Dwight', your former student, under two of my pictures, including one with my youngest daughter and my granddaughter? Fucking pathetic. Talking about 'Freedom for her but not for you.." and 'Free speech"? What a fucking weirdo you are... 

It's called STALKING. Even you coming here is stalking. They told you that in court too. Yet, you continue. 

You do know that they keep record of how many times PFAs are filed for and issued right? Your name is in the system A LOT. You can't gaslight them into thinking you weren't involved with or have not had them filed against you like you can do the good people of the group you are a part of. I would ask if you are that delusional but then again, you are still part of a (Actively) Dating A Widower group so there's that...

The courts know the absolute truth. Including what you said the last time you appeared before a judge. I know what I said too which is why you've been able to carry on this long with the antics. It's my job to follow through if I decide to file again.

I thought that since you found some new dick to ride, you'd be on your way. 

Nope. I was wrong. You are back. Bitter as ever. Guess between that not working out and you having the summer off from teaching that non-public job, I guess you are back. 

You've reached EPIC levels and I've done my part to not let you back in my Life for almost a year so the next step is this..

Sure, you can FILE first. Go right ahead. You already typed out what you typed out though. YOU ADMITTED TO STALKING ME, albeit for your own reasons. The law doesn't see it that way. You do know that right? 

I'll counter file because that's the smart thing to do, like you did when I filed twice against you, but this time, no mediation. When he/she asks if we can work it out, I'm saying no because you CAN'T COOL YOUR SHIT. You harass and pick. You don't move on. IT'S PROVEN. You are definitely not an adult. 

You want to duck and dodge while we pick up our kids or at the grocery store, mall, etc, cool. The courts don't care. I already TOLD THE SCHOOL ABOUT OUR SITUATION BEFORE YOU TRANSFERRED THE BOY THERE. They know what's up. Just waiting on you to act nutty. You won't be interrupting my viewing of my kid's stuff. Remember, they are your fellow FORMER PEERS so they know all about your stuff in Red Clay. Including the stuff with us that got you in trouble... Play if you want. 

The courts will give us BOTH ONE, sit back and laugh as we try to 'avoid' each other in places we can't. Oh wait, we've only seen each other ONCE since Aug. 2022. I wonder why that is, with you being afraid for your safety and all. It isn't your avoidance tactics either. 

I told you when we broke up that I wasn't going to jail for you no matter what stunts you pulled to try to get me to react badly like you did during the 'bag incident'. You know the one where you came to MY LEAGUE game, harassed me about my nephew's OWN MOTHER attending his game? As if you owned not only the HAC but ME? In front of MY youngest kid. Who has seen you act like an spoiled brat and be verbally abusive more times than she should have ever seen nor heard. 

I know.. I know.. it's all about your children only. It's only about YOUR SUFFERING. You are the ONLY ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. It was only YOUR TIME wasted not mine. You. You. YOU. You self centered, I want my Fairytale but I've fucked shit up in my Life every time I've had it ass person. 

FOH. 

It was for them that I filed this last report below because you were endangering not only them but my granddaughter. @ threats against me. 

A lie don't care who tells it.. @ the shit you put in that post on that page. 

I heard you bragging about being off of your meds but that's not a good thing. Every time you are off of them, you do stuff like this. Every time you tell your counselor 'half truths', they can only give you feedback of that. 



I literally should have walked out the door that day at your Aunt's house when her sister said 'I hope she doesn't run this one off like she did that last one.." You did just that and now you are mad I'm gone or didn' t chase you. You said that in text too but keep lying to the people girl. 

Enjoy your TRIBE. Maybe y'all can walk your cats together, shelter some dogs and do some other things with living things that you CAN CONTROL and dictate to. I'm not even saying you will be alone because someone will want to 'enjoy your curvy body' so you'll never be without company. I'm not stupid. I've BEEN HOPING YOU'D FIND SOMEONE so you could get off of my dick. I'm praying for him to not only show up but be strong enough to put up with all of your manipulative ways, the lying and insecurities that have you coveting the attention of the men you work with while trying to isolate him and making him feel HORRIBLE for any attention a female pays to him. Calling him an ego manic because you can't shatter his self esteem the way yours is. I pray he comes swiftly so you can keep me and mine out of your wretched mouth. 

*2015 is important because someone named Cassandra said that she took the whole year off to 'find herself', UNPROVOKED. She laid out this whole song and dance about not even dating. Which turned out to be a lie because she was sleeping with her 2nd ex husband's friend the summer we met. She laid the foundation of that lie ON PURPOSE while pestering me about who I was dating 'prior to her'. As if she wasn't in a WHOLE MARRIAGE that lied about being in a month before we met. A whole lie she NEVER HAD TO TELL because the truth might have been fine. Wait a minute, no it wouldn't have. I would have told her she needed some time and we wouldn't have been able to move at the BREAK NECK SPEED that she wanted to say she was in a committed relationship. Let's put it like this. We met 10/4/2015. Guess what date she claimed was our DATING ANNIVERSARY? Yup, that day. That's in writing too. 
 

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(Sitting In The Drafts) 4/12/21 : The "Honeymoon Stage"

Again, since someone wants to LIE about the relationship we were in, here goes something else I wrote IN REAL TIME. Yes, it's about HER. Miss "Are We Dating The Same Guy".. That chick. I have DAILY POSTS that I made when I was suffering with that chick. Remember, I said I write here every day but I don't post here every day? Yeah, this is a huge part of it. @ Sitting In The Drafts. Why do I write? To let it out in real time so that I don't 'misremember' how I was feeling or what happened at the time. It's theraputic. It also documents things because I get the funny feeling that this is going to end in a bad way. It's on record. You won't have to speculate how I was feeling or what I was thinking. It's right there. You probably are going to speculate ANYWAY but you don't have to. It's right here. In plain sight.   6/26/23

Disclaimer before the in-story disclaimer: If you are 20ish, childless, ALREADY MARRIED or a few other things, reading this shit is probably gonna drive you crazy. This is written for a pretty specific set of people. You'll figure that out as you read it.. If you are (child bearing/child having age)divorced, a single parent, dating a single parent, two single parents dating each other or POSSIBLY MARRIED with kids and getting through Life, this one MIGHT resonate. Might I say. NO GUARANTEES. This isn't for you vets who know the ropes. I'm preaching to the choir when it comes to you. You KNOW THE DRILL. 

The eternal search for recapturing the 'honeymoon stage' of a relationship has been the downfall of many a great potential partnership. That euphoria is GREAT. The lust is magical and you can't wait to see each other every day. It's fucking GREAT. Great I say. I have no problem ADMITTING THAT IT IS GREAT. Shit, I LOVE IT. As we get to know each other better, Life happens and our lives EVOLVE, the euphoria wanes. We also can't keep NEGLECTING OUR FUCKING RESPONSIBILITIES chasing this feeling so normalcy rules again as we settle into normal activities. It happens. Now, I'm no scrooge so I'm not going to say that 'wanting to be happy' is some CRAZY THOUGHT. I'm just asking for perspective here. That's all. It's going to end. It SHOULD END. 

I know that many people reading this may ultimately be in different stages in Life so please factor that in. I hope you ALL GET TO STICK TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP STANDARDS, DREAMS AND WANTS. Truly. That Life sees fit to not throw curves in your plans like divorce, death, and such. That said.... here we go. 

It seems it is IMPOSSIBLE TO KEEP UP THE INTENSITY of those first moments (days, weeks, months, etc) of getting to ACTUALLY KNOW THE PERSON YOU HAVE THIS SUPER FOND INTEREST IN GETTING TO KNOW. You can't 'unknow' things about people & as people let you in, you get to know a lot about them. You can't replicate that part of things. That's just the facts. I know we are dealing with 'emotions' here but the facts matter. It's an impossible task. Now, it may take you a LONG TIME to get to know your partner AND they may even change/evolve a bit so that might EXTEND your honeymoon period longer than it would be for others. Remember this when you 'compare your relationship to Jenny and Bobby's'. (Not that you should be comparing.. that's another post all together.) Jenny and Bobby aren't your competitors in the Indy Relationship 500. There is no such race so stop putting that kind of pressure on your relationship. Know and understand that this phase of the relationship will end. 

The good news? This phase ending means you KNOW YOUR PARTNER. You can now stop 'guessing' about what they like and use it to have a more fulfilling or UNDERSTANDING relationship. The dopamine hit of finding out new things will be replaced with the calm and peace of mind of knowing who your partner is and who they become since you know most things about them. This should be celebrated. Not dismissed as boring. Stability is a key component to any good relationship. Romantic or otherwise. You may have to learn to that this can fulfill you. Or maybe it cannot and you will forever be searching for that 'high' you get when starting off with someone new. 

Having fun ALL THE TIME is wonderful. You are scheduling times to meet up, probably ducking responsibilities or at the very least STRETCHING THINGS REALLY THIN and burning yourself out trying to get that dopamine high hit of 'new new' with your newfound potential love/lusted after person. This period is GREAT TOO. Great conversation (See above.), meeting their friends, possibly getting out of your comfort zone by going to new places, new experiences in OLD PLACES, great 'relations'. The list of 'fun' goes on and on...

It's just that though. A period. It cannot BE SUSTAINED AT THIS HIGH OF A RATE. Someone is gonna lose their job, fall behind on their responsibilities and generally slack off in some area. Someone is going to need to go back to their 'regular' life and find a way to fit YOU IN. You are probably going to have to do the same thing. A balance is definitely needed. In addition, LIFE HAPPENS and it can EASILY CHANGE whatever circumstances that existed that permitted such lovely things to happen AT THE RATE THEY WERE HAPPENING. A shift change. A growing kid. A health ailment. You name it, it can happen and you HAVE TO BE UNDERSTANDING OF THAT. Feelings aside. 

Well what do I do with THAT Mr. Blogger? You mean to tell me that we can't have fun anymore? Nobody is that busy to never have fun. I DESERVE TO HAVE FUN AND ALL TIMES DAMMIT. 

Maybe you aren't but the average person who is dealing with any of the factors that I spoke of in any capacity surely does. Congratulations on your Life and I truly wish you the best if these aren't your issues now. Before you go though I just want to let you know that at some point, they weren't other people's issues as well. They had all the time. All the resources. All the money. None of the obstacles. Until they didn't. Ya dig? Or Person A. had the obstacles but it fit for THEM, they met Person B. they liked and it didn't work for that Person B. long term. Better still it may have been Person A's LIFE THAT CHANGED and now Person B that was compatible for their 'previous lifestyle' just doesn't suite it for this type of action. Life is CRAZY like that. One person could be entering a stage and the other just beginning. Lots of compromises have to be made and it isn't for everyone. Fun can be had but it may not come in that steady stream like it did in the beginning or that 'certain time period from X to XYZ period of time'. You can't CHASE that in a relationship. It puts a strain on it. It's fabricated. Fake. A house of cards. It either happens or doesn't. No, I don't mean you can't plan stuff in your free time you do find so stop being literal. I'm just saying that enjoy the ride before you end it too soon trying chase things. It may stop for a LONG WHILE but it has a chance to start again if you weather the storm. Or, you can keep trying to force it and end your relationship with words like 'They weren't fulfilling my needs..." when you are in fact being UNREALISTIC FOR THE SITUATION YOU TWO ARE IN. 


"But they PROMISED ME THINGS. Introduced to a 'vibe that they couldn't maintain'". Stop it with these Fairytale social media quotes. In real LIFE, THE VIBE FUCKING CHANGES ALL THE TIME DUE TO LIFE HAPPENING. They VERY WELL may have intended on 'keeping the energy the same' but may not have factored in the above things. HELL, YOU MAY NOT HAVE FACTORED IN THOSE THINGS AND NOW THEY COULDN'T GVE YOU WANT YOU WANT IF THEY WERE ABLE TO OR NOT. They also may have just been giving you what they could at the time and yes, unfortunately, it was a 'honeymoon' stage that almost ALL RELATIONSHIPS go through. I get it, you've been through Hell and you deserve it ALL. The other person does too though. The honeymoon stage being 'over' means the other person doesn't get stuff too  

 you know. Or is this just about YOU? That's a heck of a way to run a relationship. Also, did they REALLY PROMISE YOU THINGS or did you try to manipulate your way in? Be honest here. 

I have learned over the years that even the best intentions can be derailed by Life and there are VERY FEW 'BAD ACTORS' when it comes to dating. Just people trying to date while living the other aspects of their lives to the fullest and to their best capabilities.  I've learned to LOOK AHEAD and not bury my head in the sand when it comes to 'upcoming trouble' as far as Life happening. I've also learned that not everyone is good at this whether it be they simply don't know or are too stubborn to think that it will happen to them. When I say trouble, I really mean regular Life changes actually. These aren't bad things on their face. They are things that happen within regular circumstances of every day Life. Thing is, most people don't like change. They especially hate change when it comes to age. You know, the whole 'hold on to your youth' thing. They want to be forever 27ish if you will. Grown enough to do things but not grown enough to not be able to whimsically go off for the weekend to say Cabo. Or stay up late at night, knowing that 5 am has you quite busy. These things just aren't things you 


Especially when dating someone with a child or a super busy job. Things are ALWAYS going to come up. Plans and whole LIFE PATTERNS CAN SHIFT IN AN INSTANT and stay that way for LONG PERIODS OF TIME. Removing any 'fun' for either party and having folks passing each other the road, beeping at each other just so they can see each other. I'm not saying you need to STAY IN SUCH RELATIONSHIPS. What I am saying is that you need not make someone a 'bad person' because these happen and they have to handle their business. After all, you chose them because of those traits more than likely and they are just doing what they always do. Especially if they've done so FOR YOU. It's just not your turn to be the main focus. 

Of course now if you need to be the main focus, you need to ADMIT THAT. Admitting that and choosing people that can truly do that for you is important. Don't go picking someone you 'admire for persevering' and then expect to add your burdens to the list of things that they have to 'persevere' too. We all want someone to be there for sure. Choose accordingly. Don't set you or that other person up to fail if you know you need more attention than they can truly give. Understand that sometimes, they need a moment too.  

"Relationships take work" is the saying most people lean on but I don't think they understand that the work is usually made up of not succumbing to the pressure of milestones, chasing dopamine hits in the form of trying to recreate stages that are designed to end and not finding comfort and love in the safety of knowing your partner (Good and bad) and them knowing you. That seems to be most of the work. That and keeping everyone out of your business. 

You may have NONE of these challenges or anything I have written here today and again I say 'HATS OFF TO YOU. ENJOY THAT and PLEASE DISREGARD. You are blessed.." 




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